Dad loved my mom. They were married for 58 years. He loved to tell the story of when he first saw her at the University of Idaho. My dad consistently spoke well of my mom. He complimented her often and delighted in her company. They enjoyed each other. There was peace in their presence and a sense of security that their love was stronger than death.

Jay and I would tell you that marriage is vital to both of us. Jay is married to my wonderful sister-in-law, Jennifer, and they have made marriage a primary emphasis. When you are around Jay and Jen, it’s clear they enjoy each other, honor and value one another, and aspire to have a lifetime love.  

I feel this way about Shann, my husband. 31st year of marriage, and I find myself deeper in love with him each year. We work hard to love well, speak well of one another, and forgive often and quickly.

Jay and I would say the blessing of good marriages came strongly from the beautiful example of watching Mom and Dad. We saw the work of marriage, navigating disagreement, discussing difficulties, and becoming true friends. Jesus always remained the center of their marriage- binding them together. Mom and Dad’s dedication to each other through the years of cancer comes to mind when I read Shakespeare’s sonnet 116, “Love looks on tempests and is never shaken.”  

“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12 

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