Words of Hope: Skilled Parents

Parenting is hard.   What makes matters worse is that people often don’t work to figure out how to be skilled as a parent. Much like the terrible shooter who continues to shoot though they haven’t a prayer, an untrained parent...

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Words of Hope: Speed Friendship

Our family has a fun mealtime activity called "Speed Friendship."   We ask a question and quickly find out more about whoever is at the table.   Examples of questions we might ask are:  · Favorite color...

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Words of Hope: Relational Joy

I read recently that researchers have discovered a connection between relational joy in your fifties and wellbeing and flourishing health in your eighties.   I think of Dad’s life and wonder how much relational stress contributed to his health. Dad loved...

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Words of Hope: A More Transformative Perspective

In the last two Words of Hope, I have been sharing about a presentation Shann and I heard during our prayer retreat. One of the most provocative statements for me is that God cannot be present in organizations who...

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Words of Hope: God’s Heartbreak

Shann and I were part of a prayer retreat recently. Each day had two or three presenters. One presenter who spoke on heartbreak asked this beautiful question, “What breaks God’s heart?” My friend, a world-renowned painter, Mako Fujimura, painted...

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Words of Hope: Heartbreak

Recently Shann and I participated in a contemplative prayer retreat. One of the beautiful and elegant questions asked was, “What breaks your heart?” One of the things that breaks my heart is a child without a loving, present father....

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Words of Hope: Joan of Arc Hope

I find Dad's title, "Words of Hope," so crucial during difficult times. I say difficult times because I feel a deep battle raging in the world — one between joy and despair, community and division, and peace and war....

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Words of Hope: Counsel of Equals

Dad and I had an important mentor who had helped with the Challenger Space Shuttle disaster as a consultant in the aftermath of the tragedy. In the team’s exploration of what went wrong, they discovered the colossal mistake arose...

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Words of Love: The Source of Love

A friend asked me the other day why I thought Dad was so dynamic and incredibly loving to others. He told me he doesn’t know anyone like my Dad, who knew and cared about so many people. I know...

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Words of Hope: Dramatic Transformation

My father-in-law was on a generational pattern of self-sabotage. He came from no education, alcoholism, wasted living, and deeply troubled relationships. He was throwing his life away until someone intervened and encouraged him to play basketball and get a...

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