Mother speaking to her distraught daughter says, “Sorry, honey we can’t teach pain to stop hurting.”

A little boy falls in the bathtub; cuts his forehead; cries out, “Stop the pain, mommy, I’ll be good!”

The Pain Truth

Life pain is inescapable. Pain is inevitable.

Pain can be ignored or medicated but it cannot be eradicated.

Pain is necessary to be fully developed and mature.

Pain is either a friend or a foe. These are our two choices.


If pain is chosen as a foe these are the possible outcomes.

  • Pain actually intensifies and does not diminish when resisted.
  • Pain reduction will be medicated legally or illegally.
  • Buried emotional pain will resurface in physical illness.
  • Pain will be inflicted on others we care about most.
  • Pain will inhibit and deprive experiencing the joys of life.

If pain is experienced as a friend these are the possible outcomes.

  • Pain will be accepted as a valued teacher.
  • Pain faced head-on reduces the intensity of the pain.
  • Pain means stop; refocus and change course.
  • Pain is a warning signal; listen to it and learn.
  • Pain is a form of discipline. Discipline is good; therefore pain is good.

Pain Truth

  • No pain no birth
  • No pain no growing
  • No pain no gain
  • No pain no love
  • No pain no physical health
  • No pain no joy
  • No pain no warning
  • No pain no education
  • No painful crucifixion no glorious resurrection

It is really this simple therefore it is wise to embrace pain as a friend, not a foe.

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. – Hebrews 12:11

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. – James 1:2-3

I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. – Romans 8:18