Forgiveness asking is one of the world’s most important, yet least understood and practiced success principles.
What makes it so difficult to ask forgiveness?
What are the four best words you can say to restore conflict that is impossible for so many to say? “Will you forgive me?”
It is not hard to say I am sorry. I didn’t mean what I said, but it is so hard to say, “Will you forgive me for ______________(actually name offense).
It is easy to say, I had a bad day, I was just tired, or don’t listen to me. Why not say, “would you forgive me; what was that like for you when I ______________(state what you did).
It’s far more convenient to act like nothing happened and all is good. Sweep it under the rug. Pretend all is good until the next blow up.
Forgiveness is misunderstood. There is a gigantic difference between forgiveness and reconciliation.
From the Biblical perspective, forgiveness asking is a command. It is not an option.
Whereas reconciliation is optional. It is not a command.
Forgiveness sets us free. Unforgiveness puts us in an emotional and spiritual prison.
To not forgive both self and others, destroys relationships.
The Christ message begins and ends with forgiveness. “Teach us how to pray.” Jesus disciples asked.
At the cross Jesus’ final words just before saying “Is it finished” were: “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.”
How are you at forgiveness asking?
Is there someone you would like to ask forgiveness from?
Forgiveness does not mean we must resume a toxic relationship. Forgiveness means we no longer hang onto bitterness. Reconciliation is a totally different issue.