Many of us have heard “HELP!” from a child. Sometimes this means the child is in danger or perhaps just needs assistance or support. Maybe any help will make a situation better or more achievable. Other times it is a plea to “lend a hand!”

What we do know is all people need help. However, some just don’t know they need it as opposed to others who are too proud to ask for help. Furthermore, far too many don’t want help. 

On the other hand, some people love to give help. This is because most of them dramatically received help at a crucial time in their lives. These helpers now know the joy of helping others.

Yet, there is one strong consideration for these “helping-hand” helpers: Does the person you are seeking to help actually want help? There is a vast difference between a person wanting help and a person needing help. Until a person wants help, it can be detrimental to his well-being to force the help upon him. Often, painful life circumstances will become that force for a person to willingly seek help. 

My life experience says if you want to help someone more than the person wants it, the best help is to back off until that person takes steps to seek it. My life experience also says close living (as in a home) sometimes can stir up “messiness” in relationships. The one prime cleansing agent is asking forgiveness. This is the best way of seeking help. To forgive is an act of kindness from a tender heart. Jesus displayed this the best, yet He also knew us the best.