Our scripture memory verse this past week was 1 Peter 4:12-13. It begins, “Dear Friends.” The words in Greek translates as “those who are beloved, deeply loved.”

Who are these dear friends in your life? One of my dear friends I met when I was nine years old at NBC Camps. We grew up working and coaching together. He drove 18 hours during finals week to be there for my engagement to Shann. He is that kind of person. He stood with Shann as a groomsman and Shann stood in kind at his wedding. 

This friend and I have been through serious trials together. We have been afraid together and have wept side by side. At times I have been his encouragement when he is down and he, my encouragement. 

I saw him recently, and his words were an immediate balm and comfort— a true sign of a dear friend. 

We talked together and he prayed for me. As I left, I cried for joy to have a dear friend like him, a true brother to both me and Shann.  

I consider how to be a dear friend to others. As I consider this, I listen to a woman writing poems about all the thoughtless and platitudinal words of comfort said to her by well-meaning Christian people during her times of suffering. Those words amplified suffering rather than healing. 

The intention is sincere, but the impact is raw and unfeeling. 

Why is that? Why do the words “dear friends” bring us such hope?  I believe it is because we have witnessed them suffering with us. There is no heartless pity but a deep flowing sense of one suffering heart speaking and uplifting the heart of another. 

Who are your dear friends and how are you walking with them?

“Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery trial you are suffering as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ so that you may be overjoyed when His glory is revealed.” – 1 Peter 4:12-13