Get Out of Jail Free

Unforgiveness is the number one way to be imprisoned in the Emotional Intelligence Jail. It is holding a grudge against someone who has offended us, leading to unkind and merciless thoughts. It has an underlying poisonous cycle: Unresolved hurt (recognized or unrecognized), resentment, bitterness, vengeance, evil speaking.

When in this cycle, emotional prisoners either punish themselves or others, depending on their type of personality. Blamers of self-hurt themselves; blamers of others hurt others. The answer to the needed emotional healing is forgiveness. Unfortunately, it is not often taught.

Forgiveness is not:

• Forgetting the offense.
• Reconciling.
• Acting as if nothing happened.
• Avoiding confrontation.
• Weakness.

In contrast, forgiveness is:

• Saying, “I forgive you.”
• Releasing emotionally…
• Letting go of anger, resentment, bitterness, getting even, vengeance, hatred.
• Choosing to see the good in the other.
• Strength.

The ones you live with will be spared of an unforgiving-spirit atmosphere. What you choose to forgive may become your destiny.

If you want to be free, forgive**.** Using God’s compassion and forgiveness to deal with offensive people will strengthen you. It is your get-out-of-jail card. God our Father taught us to pray: “…and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us…”